Getting Started

INTRODUCTION

In a world filled with taboos, misinformation, fantasy posing as reality and frauds posing as potential opponents, you have a right to a place where you can learn about how real women really wrestle and catfight safely and enjoyably.
That's the purpose of this blog which is prepared entirely by combative women.

It's is a "tutorial" about how to actually go about wrestling or catfighting other women: getting opponents, setting up matches, rules for various types of matches, conduct guidelines, doing scenes, security and safety precautions and even how a man can involve his mate.
This "tutorial" is still the only primer of its kind on the Internet.
An important note here: while our site supports many forms of female combative activity (including organized sports), this tutorial is designed for the "recreational wrestler/catfighter": A woman who does it only for fun, usually in the privacy of a home, in front of a select and usually small group of observers. It's a past-time, hobby or fun activity for her.
For the record, we coined the phrase "recreational wrestler/catfighter" because, to be honest, there was no definition for what we do or niche for us. Okay? Now, before we start...
A frequent question:
Why would a woman wrestle/catfight another woman?

On its face, the question appears pregnant with sexism. I mean, hell, why would a man wrestle another man, right? But we know that answer is disingenuous. The sexism encased in the question affects all of us and, because we're exposed to that sexism from birth, we simply have to buy into some of it on some level.

We're taught to not fight, to not use our strength, not to compete physically or even to exert ourselves, to never sweat or grunt in public, to not expose our bodies against the bodies of other women.
We're taught that women who do that are crazy, or "low", or "perverted". Those aren't easy biases to confront and overcome for any woman. Girlfriend, put the cards on the table, it's not easy for most of us to fight. However, these days of the progressive modern woman those taboos are beginning to disappear.

Those who do it cite many reasons. Exercise or fun, their own needs (including sexual), or the needs of partners (often sexual). Usually, like so much in life, it's a combination of these and all of them, including the last, are very good reasons. There's nothing wrong with two women getting together to do what they want safely and enjoyably no matter the reason.

In fact, I think it's especially wonderful if your wrestling turns your mate on. A couple that shares common sexual interests and can meet each other's sexual needs is very lucky indeed.

But For most women, this means that you need to feel comfortable and safe and confident when you go into a match (particularly when you're first getting started). That's the reason for this section.

DEFINITIONS:

If you're interested in doing "this", maybe we should define what "this"is.

...an athletic competition in which two people attempt to render each other incapable of movement or competing (fighting back) by forcing her to submit.

Wrestling is fighting without blows: grappling with rules. Catfighting is wrestling with added techniques such as slapping, hair pulling and others as agreed upon.

You've done it. Maybe it was some horsing around with a girlfriend or your sister or cousin when you were younger. Or maybe you've actually been in a fight or two (it does happen).
Wrestling is a natural reaction to being restrained.

Contrary to what many people think, women have wrestled and fought for as long as recorded history. I encourage you to take a look – research for yourself just for some historical background and to get a feeling that you're "not alone".

And you're not. Today, thousands of women in this country wrestle and catfight each other in private for recreation. There's no question that this is an outgrowth of the increasing confidence and independence that women feel and enjoy in a society changed dramatically by feminist thinking and movements. It's been accelerated by the development of female body-building, by the increasing interest in body toning and aerobics, the opening to women of all kinds of sports, and, of course, by changes in sexual mores.
It's fun. It's done. It's safe. And it IS natural no matter what people may tell you. If you're intrigued by it or actually want to do it, you must understand that you're not alone and that normal women, with jobs, kids, families and everything else we shoulder in this society, wrestle and catfight a lot and look for other with whom to do it.
Let me say something up front. There are some people who think it's strange or even sick for women to want to wrestle or catfight other women. There's a real simple answer: is it either sick or strange for men to wrestle? But the more important issue is that this is not your problem because you're a woman and nobody on earth should be telling you that you should not try a harmless and fun and interesting activity because of your sex. :-)
Lots of women do straight wrestling as described above but there are many tangents to it, as diverse as people's imagination. Still, because I'm not writing a whole book here, I'll divide them into two general categories: catfighting and sexfighting.
Read carefully now because a lot of people still don't "get" this: the "catfighting" we are referring to is "rules catfighting" and it has a long and treasured place in the history of female combative activities. It is really nothing more than a wrestling match in which the women are allowed to use certain pain-oriented techniques such as hair-pulling, breast grabbing, and slapping or as mentioned above whatever the two combatants agree upon beforehand.
A rules catfight is PART of recreational wrestling.

In short, they're rough but not dangerous and the rules are set up to prevent any injury of any kind.

Catfights are usually continued until a submission.

 ...also called erotic wrestling, "adult fighting", or "sexfighting", is actually a wide variety of encounters -- some competitive, some basically sex. While some "purists" may quibble with me, the fact is that erotic combat is quite popular and, in fact, many women who wrestle seriously also do erotic fighting matches occasionally 

(or more often than that).

The most popular form of sex fight is a wrestling match in which the women are allowed to touch each other sexually, particularly in the crotch area. For the most part, in safe competition, this involves rubbing with the hand or another body part. In other words, you're fighting but you are also allowed to manipulate that part of the body either to distract the opponent or to actually bring her to orgasm.

There are also forms of sexfighting which don't involve much combat -- they are more "competitive sex" in which the opponents allow each other to use sexual techniques and the woman who "comes" first loses.

Finally, there is a very popular kind of wrestling called "face straddle" or "face sitting" submission wrestling – face sitting is also a common strategy in cat fighting matches . This involves one opponent straddling the other. While this sometimes stops immediately with a submission (which makes it non-sexual), it can involve the loser bringing the victor to orgasm or simply enjoying the victory for a few moments before letting her up.

That is by consent and that's a great segue to the golden rule section.

 



GOLDEN RULE: Everything must be consensual.

Soooooo.... Before you fight another woman, be clear about what you will do to each other, be sure that it is acceptable to both.

ATTITUDE:
Combative women fight other combative women and we fight to win.

We do for fun because it IS fun, a lot of fun. We do it because we enjoy the competitive nature and the experience makes us grow and we can't have that experience without our opponents. But, for that to happen, we have to try to beat them! And that's what this section is about.

When you do your first match, you will likely be quite nervous. Not only is this a new experience and a potentially exciting one but it's one you've probably pictured in your mind for some time and you're just not sure how it will actually play out.
How "heavy" should I get? Where do I grab her? How rough is too rough? Will she be embarrassed if I beat her? Will I if she beats me?
This is the first place where an important attitude shift must occur. Girlfriend, remember why you're there: you are getting together to compete physically and to explore what that means for each of you.

Wrestling is just fun, of course, but it can also be a deepening experience for you: you're using muscles in ways most women don't, you are struggling against a person who is about as strong as you. You're not "fighting back" against an attacker here -- you are attacking as well. The goal is no longer "survival" or getting away as in a physical attack from a man; the goal here is to beat her.

The important thing is to convince yourself of a simple fact: SHE wants you to try to beat her. Because if you don't, you are cheating her out of the full extent of self-exploration available during a match. How is she going to really test herself or experience these new emotions and feelings and physical stresses unless you're really posing a challenge to her and vice versa.
Essentially, the rule for combative women is to set up a match where both parties agree on the rules and fight within the rules with everything you have to beat her during the match.
While this may seem harsh or insensitive to her (or to you, if you lose), it is really the highest form of respect and support for her. You will NOT enjoy a match in which one of you isn't trying hard.
So...fight! Grab her wherever you can, struggle to get her down, struggle to stay on top of her, fight hard to hold her in place, fight like hell to get out of her holds. Pull hair, slap her face, her belly, her breasts (wherever it is legal) roll, grab and hold. Don't be afraid to hurt her. Unless you are much more experienced than she or much bigger, you won't.
In short, you should never be afraid to fight hard and fight to win. She will do the same and, win or lose, each of you will emerge feeling that you've had fun and that, in a small way perhaps, your world is a slightly different place.




BASIC GUIDELINES:
Venue

• You can do this in somebody's home or a motel or gym or anyplace where there's privacy and enough room.

Contests can occur on mats, mattresses or on a rug - make sure the material isn't scratchy. If you think the action may get vocal or noisy, have some music playing to drown it out.

• Have a specific place where the observers can sit or stand...away from the action.

Okay...that's it in general. Now, let's go over the general rules for competition:

Catfighting

Catfighting, despite the intimidating sound of the term can be fun and as safe, if not safer than, straight wrestling.

• Fight to submissions until someone either taps out or says I give, stop or whatever words are agreed to signal a submission. Usually, the three catfight techniques are hair pulling, slapping and breast grabbing. Often body punches are also used. You can include any or all of these in the fight but both of you must consent to them beforehand.
• Hairpulling is, well just as it sounds. You pull hair for position and to cause enough discomfort in your opponent to gain an advantage. Making her wince or moan can be an exhilarating feeling.
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• Grab breasts with the fingers/hands and never dig nails in no matter how short they are. Breast twisting is another tactic that can be agreed upon by both parties. Otherwise just grab them and squeeze if you've included that. You’ll figure out how hard as you go.
• Slap with open hands only.
• Body punching should be done with stiff jab like punches, remember, you’re not trying to break her ribs! But you do want her to feel it.

ATTIRE:

What you wear depends on what you're doing.

• My general rule is to wrestle in as little as you're comfortable with but no less. Bikinis and lingerie are most common. You should remember that with some bikinis the top may slip off during a match. If you've a problem with that, dress accordingly, you don’t want to be distracted by this and have your opponent gain an advantage.
• Like it or not yourself, some women like to wrestle topless or nude. If you are one of them, talk to your opponent about it frankly and openly. Many wrestlers will do it without hesitation.
• In a catfight, attire becomes a real issue. A lot of women do street clothes catfights where you rip stuff off. If you do, just don't wear anything good and make sure it rips easily. If you want to pull tops off, agree to do that and nothing more (PULEEZE don't choke each other with those things!)

·  The other issue, interestingly enough, is your feet.

• ·  I have a hard and fast rule: I wrestle and fight barefoot and require all opponents to do the same. Many women I know have the same attitude for a very simple reason: shoes are dangerous. Even gym shoes can leave serious bruises on legs after an accidental kick. Of course, heels in a real match are simply not worn unless you want a broken ankle or an injury from a heel. Also barefeet are often considered erotic and sexually pleasing to the audience.
  In some cases matches are fought in hose. If you do, go ahead but make sure all leg wear is clean -- don't wear to the venue; clean it and put it on right before you begin.

SETTING IT UP:

One of the most frequent questions from women is about pre-match preparations. To wit:
"We're together in the room. The guys are there. We're ready. Now what do we do? How do we start?"
Great question and it is a real issue for many combative women because a scene can greatly enhance the fun of a match and sometimes can be as moving, arousing, and fun as the match itself. While it most often occurs in a rules catfight, scenes can be an issue in a wrestling match as well.
So if you are going to do a "scene" before tangling, you need to PLAN it and treat it as part of the match. As previously indicated, opponents should talk about possible "scenes" -- will you play out some scenario, dress in any special way, argue about something, have some preliminary vignette? Will you be cordial right up to the match or will you "take an attitude" with each other. Will you play out a fake argument or act coldly as rivals?

And even if there's no specific scene planned, there is the issue of preliminaries. What do you do before the match begins? When do you actually start? How will you handle attire? I'm not advocating a complete production here -- I mean, you're there to fight not to win an Academy Award -- but scenes and preliminaries are worth at least a few minutes of discussion and agreement.
Some women (and even more men) like an aggressive build-up while some just can't get into it. Talk it out by phone as you discuss the encounter and go over preparations a couple of times before you actually meet. Most women aren't actresses. If you're going to do a whole scene, you need to talk together to set parameters, explain "attitudes", etc. In other words, no one should be surprised.
If you decide to actually do a build up scene, there are some rules you should be conscious of.
Make clear what your opponent does NOT want to hear. She may be embarrassed by allusions to part of her body or offended by racial, ethnic, class or sexual slurs. The best advice is to refrain from using any of these unless both opponents have specifically called for it. A slur too close to home can be painful and can spoil the entire experience.
Are you going to argue over one of the men? (some women do this...some men like this). Well, what's the other man (the guy who isn't the "prize) going to think or feel? Get all that clear.
Finally, decide when you're going to start the scene and how long it will take, more or less. You don't want to walk into a room expecting a cordial greeting and have someone call you names. If the scene will commence the moment you walk into the room, make that clear. Also, your opponent may not want to argue for a half hour, no matter how catty you're feeling at the moment. :-)
In short, NO surprises.
Stand facing each other and match each other garment for garment. By agreement, one of you takes the lead. She removes something and the opponent immediately begins doing the same. The leader waits until the opponent has the garment removed before going on to the next garment. Go as slowly as you need to for comfort but don't prolong it. It's not a race but it's not a striptease either. And, of course, don't take off anything that hasn't been agreed to beforehand. Keep your eyes on each other. Steer clear of looking over to the observers.
EROTIC ASPECTS AND MATCHES:
There are basically two types of erotic matches and the difference has to do with the goal sought.
In face straddle or face-sit matches, the combatants fight to dominate each other (as in a regular catfight match) but they vie for the top (or face straddling) position where a submission can only be gained by either a front or reverse “face-sit”. This move or position is also often used as a submission in normal “rules catfights”.
The face sit position and match

 

is a wrestling match or catfight that continues until one woman is able to securely straddle the other's face. In less prim and proper English, you get your butt or crotch on her face, straddling her torso. Some matches the victor will sit for a prolonged time (several seconds) after. This is often to “gloat/trash talk” or simply show her dominance for that match or round. Always make sure your opponent can breathe. If she cannot, back off a little to give her air, then you can resume your “dominant position for a few moments longer before getting off her. Again, the move is often used in normal rules catfight matches and sometimes the combatants agree to a submission by face-sit only match.
In the other, the "sex fight", the goal is to bring the opponent to orgasm during the contest itself. This should be done with a familiar opponent as opposed to someone you are competing against for the first time unless you are very comfortable with the other person and vice versa.

An Erotic Match

is a contest in which the women are wrestling or fighting to bring each other to orgasm with the loser being the woman who comes first.
There are various forms of "sex fighting". The most popular is a real wrestling match or catfight in which the combatants are allowed, among all the other techniques, to rub each other sexually with hands, thighs or feet...whatever is available. Here too, girlfriend, there are rules!
Never slap, punch or kick someone's crotch.
I don't even have to explain that one.
Have an alternative way of winning.
In other words, if one of you submits with any hold, the match is over. Then the winner gets to “have her way” with the loser for an agreed upon amount of time.
If you come, admit it immediately.
It's often tough to tell if another woman has come, so don't take it for granted that she knows you did.
Well, there you have it! This article should tell you everything you ever wanted to know about catfighting and female wrestling but were afraid to ask.
I hope it has informed you well and you are on your way to knew and exciting experiences. Remember, it’s all about your enjoyment. Never do anything in life that doesn’t bring you happiness. Good luck, now go rip some hair out!

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